I recently read an article about how women use the word “just” in work life and personal life more than men do because we feel we need to apologize or make whatever we have to say quick. “I’m just writing to say…” “I just want to know…” “Just checking in…”. It seems to trivialize what we have to say.
Don’t apologize or feel you need to make little of what you are saying. Say it with intention. “I’m writing to tell you this…” “I want you to know…” “I’m checking in to make sure…"
Since reading the article I’ve become aware of how much I was adding “just” so soften what I had to say, whether it needed to be softened or not.
Say what you have to say with confidence and intent. without apology. what you have to say, no matter what it is, is important.
Or maybe we learned how to talk like socially thoughtful human beings who know how to ask for something or say something without being like, all brute strength speech or overtly forceful. I am tired of being told that the subtlety with which women learn to vocalize their feelings/thoughts/needs is always wrong. Yes, directness is good but maybe so is delicacy and tact. Social savviness about saying something carefully isn’t a weakness. Maybe we can all stop overly praising masculine speech, which is kind of what this shit adds up to.
Nasa has found a twin Earth orbiting a star like the Sun in the Milky Way. Kepler 452b - which has been dubbed Earth 2.0 - is six billion years old, has a 385 day year and orbits its star at the same distance as us. It is 1,400 light-years away in the constellation Cygnus. This image compares Earth, left, to Kepler-452b, which is about 60 percent larger.
In his diary, Warhol later wrote, “I said that once some man had been calling me a lot wanting to give me one [a Macintosh], but I’d never called him back or something, and then the kid looked up and said, ‘Yeah, that was me. I’m Steve Jobs.”
Warhol didn’t like the Mac because it was grayscale, and he was all about color - so he preferred the Commodore Amiga. By 1985, he was making stuff like this: